What Does Success Truely Mean?

I was on a conversation this morning with a friend i met on Facebook and we got talking about personal matters after chatting about the economy and world politics for a while. What struck me was the negative and wasted energy that this guy was ''emitting''.

Just because things are not working now doesn't mean that they will remain like that for ever. Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, 'I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.'

Does your definition of success and wealth include the failure of those around you? Desiring a business that brings in money is really different from desiring a business that brings in the most money. Desiring to be a good author is different from desiring to be the finest author.

It's very hard if not impossible to be jealous and happy at the same time. The more often we compare ourselves to other people, the more we expose ourselves to likely unfavorable comparisons. Over comparing ourselves to others can leave us chronically vulnerable, jeopardized, and insecure.

I frankly seldom ever compare myself to other people I know. I can forever find somebody that brings in more money, has a nicer website, publishes more and higher quality content, and teaches better than me.

Alternatively, I center on trying to identify the objective standard of performance that I need to accomplish to remain competitive in the marketplace. I recognize how much I need to publish and how well I need to instruct to be able to find another position if I wanted one. I'm only concerned with the performance of others in as much as I may be able to learn something from them that could better my own operation.

And when things go wrong, we simply have to get over it and progress. But how you move on is vital. Reflection and regret are a waste of effort as well.

Learn to view what you think are shortcomings as an enormous opportunity to learn. Not doing so well is a signal that there's a gap between where we are and where we need to be. Learning to accept the creative tension these gaps give us are the key to continuous learning and betterment.
A long time ago, I was sounding off to my friend about how other people were doing better than me. “Why bother with them?” he responded. “Just do your own thing. Just continue applying and learning – and you’ll do hunky-dory.”

How truthful! Comparison is a waste of our energy. It causes nothing to help our attempts, and we’re simply pouring energy and time into all these worthless endeavors.
Whatever you're applying yourself to, merely center on doing it well. Centre on the only step you are able to take – the one you're taking now. Blank out the past; blank out the future; blank out the other people.

If infants could compare then only a humble percentage of us would be walking as grownups; the rest would have quit years ago. When babies discover how to crawl, walk, and run, they're strictly centered on the act itself. They don’t look around and compare, and get down in the mouth – that baby is more precious, that baby is already walking, and look…That one is already running! Stop wasting your energy

Take the time to redefine success for yourself. Include in your definition of success play and laughter. Put happiness in it. Include feeling content and gratified now in it. This is how you draw in and produce wealth. And lastly, enjoy success now! Not later.

Sincerely,

Djebah 'Vughe
A proud SFI Bronze Team Leader